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The Truth If Life Isn’t What You Thought It’d Be

February 23, 2020

The Truth for When Your Life Isn't What You Thought It'd Be by Scout and Bex

 

When I thought of my 20’s, especially my late 20’s, I never thought it would look the way it does. 

 

What 16-year-old Becca thought:

 

I’ll probably be married. With a kid or one on the way. I’ll have figured out my career and be financially stable. I will have bought a house in a city I love. My friends and I will be living similar lives swapping stories about our kids and husbands, maybe taking vacations together. Stability will be the name of the game and I’ll have it all figured out.

 

 

Reality:

 

I live in Los Angeles. Although I have grown to love this city, it isn’t where I would have picked to have lived independently of the opportunities it presents. I’m single and have been for years. No man or kids in sight. I have a job that I love but financial stability and owning a house in this town are high achievements. My friends are starting to get married and have kids and our lives are starting to look very different. Although I have an apartment I love, a community, and a great job, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m supposed to do other things, outside of this city and this industry so it looks like stability is a long way off.

 

 

My truth:

 

Overall, I’m happy. I love the people who are in my life and am so incredibly grateful for what has been given to me in this chapter of my life. But oftentimes as I get ready for bed or for a wedding or want to explore somewhere new and everyone is busy, I feel lonely. I want to share my life with someone even though I’m happy on my own. It’s two sides of the same coin. It’s hard to feel like I can’t get to the next “predetermined” step. But I continue to have hope because there’s the truth.

 

 

The truth:

 

“‘For I know the plans I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” Jeremiah 29:11

 

You can operate out of your truth which oftentimes is fueled by fear OR you can operate out of faith. The hard truth is we don’t know what the future holds. There is no way for us to predict it.

 

I have a huge life decision that I’m going to make in 1-2 years. It will change every single thing about my life. Lately, I’ve been living in a state of fear and what-ifs. What if I do make this choice and still don’t get x, y, and z. While staying logical in our choices and thinking things through is very necessary, overthinking is one of my biggest enemies. I have prayed over this decision. I know what the Lord is telling me to do. But what if I make this choice and my life still doesn’t look like I think it should? That is fear and fear is of the enemy.

 

You don’t know how your life is going to turn out or how or when. Neither do I. The truth is that God has a plan for my life. A plan to prosper us. To give us hope and a future. A plan to glorify His kingdom. You are right where you are meant to be. We are meant to turn our tests into our testimonies.

 

 

The Truth for When Your Life Isn't What You Thought It'd Be by Scout and Bex

 

And still:

 

I hear you, see you, understand you because I am you. If you are not where you thought you’d be, if it doesn’t look like you dreamed it would, it feels like your friends are outpacing you and maybe even leaving you behind in the last stage of life, you are not alone even when it feels very much so like you are.

 

Often times when I feel alone, I imagine myself in a metaphor to illustrate my loneliness. For instance, I imagined I was driving a car and was lost. Having the imagery made me feel like I had a better grasp on my emotions. As I thought of this scenario, God filled my mind with the thought that He’s in the passenger seat holding the map, if only I’ll listen. I’ve held onto this for a long time.

 

Today felt different. I had a situation in my life that hit me hard with loneliness and the feeling of being left behind in the stage of singleness. I thought of myself in a boat with an oar. I imagined myself paddling and paddling and getting nowhere. Then, my boat started going straight. I looked behind me. God was steering me, all I had to do was paddle.

 

Even when we feel alone, we aren’t. We have people who feel the same (hi!) but even if that feels like a far fetched idea, we always have God, our Father. He loves you and wants the best for you. He will never desert you. He has a reason for everything, especially His timing. Every time I look back on my life (which also didn’t look like I thought it would) everything makes sense. We hear that with our heads but it can be hard for the heart to feel.

 

When there is nothing left, we have to hold onto our faith that our Father is there and cares and for us and is not against us.

 

 

My prayer for you:

 

That you feel Him and know you aren’t alone. That you make peace with where God has taken your life. I pray that we can recognize in each other our need for our communities, no matter what state in life people are at. I lift you up to God that whatever is on or in your heart that He would glorify or change if that is what He intends. Every day, I will pray for your protection against fear and for your openness for hope.

 

When I say, “you’ve got this”, it isn’t just because I believe in you even though I do. I know you’ve got this because I know who your back up is. So hear me when I say, you’ve got this. And I’ll keep reminding myself too.

 

 

hopeful for you,

scout and bex

 

The Truth for When Your Life Isn't What You Thought It'd Be by Scout and Bex

 

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✨find joy in the small every day moments✨

Life is hard. And beautiful. And tragic. And inspiring. It’s everything all the time and all at once.

Stay grounded. Stay rooted in Christ and who HE is. We are living in a broken world but our feet stay firmly and humbly planted in the truth that is our whole and complete God.

Your identity is in Christ and the more you believe that and stay rooted in its freedom, the beautiful moments will become amplified and they will become a part of you.
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Silent night, holy night All is calm, all is brigh Silent night, holy night
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'Round yon virgin Mother and Child
Holy infant so tender and mild
Sleep in heavenly peace
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Silent night, holy night!
Shepherds quake at the sight!
Glories stream from heaven afar;
Heavenly hosts sing Al-le-lu-ia!
Christ the Savior is born!
Christ the Savior is born!
Christ the Savior is born!
Silent night, holy night
Son of God, oh, love's pure light
Radiant beams from Thy holy face
With the dawn of redeeming grace
Jesus, Lord at Thy birth
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Got to show some friends my parents house all decked out in Christmas tonight over facetime and if that’s not merry and bright, I don’t know what is.

Lets file this one under: moments in 2020 to take with me

I hope you’re finding your own small merry and bright moments. I’d love to hear about them in the comments because ya know...sharing is caring and what’s more Christmasy then that?

📸: @jmgrant2016 as per usual
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In a very real way, I am so grateful for my health and my loved ones heath more than ever before. And more then ever, I feel supremely blessed for the relationships in my life near or far.

This may be a difficult holiday for you this year. Maybe you’re grieving. The loss of a loved one or a job or traditions. You might be spending this holiday alone or missing family members because they live far away and can’t travel.

Whatever it is, know you’re not alone. I see you and honor what your season may look like. We will get through this one way or another and on the other side, may we feel a little more blessed than we did before.

Love you all. Especially @jmgrant2016 who I wish I could stand in front of the Christmas tree at Disneyland with this year too🖤
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